Denial is when a person continues to repeat dysfunctional behaviors but thinks everything is fine. That’s denial. Denial is also a lack of awareness and awareness is necessary to recognizing that there is a problem.
When a person sees themselves in the same frustrating or dissatisfying situation, they need to take notice. A great metaphor for denial is clumsy people. Clumsy people don’t watch where they are going, don’t look where they are walking, step on something, trip and fall, and/or bump into things. They kind of lumber through life, lacking situational awareness. In addition they are unaware that they are placing themselves or someone else at risk by their behavior.
Addictions whether it be to drugs, gambling, alcohol, food, shopping, video games, texting, exercise – – are forms of denial. Many addicts say “Oh, I can stop any time I want. I just don’t want to.” That is the ultimate denial.
If you repeatedly find yourself in the same unhappy, unhealthy place, it’s time to pay attention and recognize that you do indeed have an issue that needs to be resolved.